DEFLECTING CRITICISM

Dealing with Difficult PeopleThe prima donna, the heir apparent, aka the "bone in my nose" type ... often star producers who are take a lot of time and energy out of your day. BONE IN THE NOSE Matthew had it all. A degree from the best college, phi beta kappa, a long record of the highest academic achievement, startling good looks, and great social skills. "I could walk in there with a bone in my nose and they'd hire me," he told me. "Not with that attitude," I replied. "I know," he said. "I temper it." And there's the ...
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The High Costs of Anger (Part 2)'Dr. Fiore,' the voice on the phone pleaded, 'I need anger management classes right away. I blew up at my girlfriend last night and she said it's over until I get help.' As Kevin recounted the first night of class, he and his girlfriend had argued in the car over which route to take home from a party. Events progressed from mild irritation, to yelling and name calling. Things escalated at home. He tried to escape, but she followed him from room to room, demanding resolution of the conflict. ...
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Taking Personal StockWhat's the difference between self-criticism and self-awareness? There's so much talk in the world about loving ourselves just the way we are. The idea is that we are each perfect and beautiful. It goes even further to say that in reference to our personal journeys, we are exactly where we are meant to be and there's no need to berate ourselves for not being more spiritual, more educated, more affluent, more of anything. My concern is that so many people take that to mean they can then sit and ...
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For Speaking Ease, Forgive Your Younger SelfI love the Disney movie The Kid with Bruce Willis. In it he plays a stressed-out, high-power image consultant. He wears expensive suits, lives in a chic, elegantly furnished home and has all the money he can spend. His biggest challenge comes when a young boy'-his younger self-'comes to stay with him. He doesn't recognize himself at first, but then comes to see that he can heal himself by comforting the boy he was and accepting the man he is. (Don't worry, there's still a lot of other ...
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To Be or Not to BeForgiveness is a complicated issue for many of us because it revolves around anger, which is a VERY complicated topic for most of us. We're all a little weary of classifications, but let's throw one out that works as well as any of them do. Most of us have an UNfavorite emotion, and we fall into two camps ' those who can deal with anger, but not tenderness; and those who can deal with tenderness, but not anger. For those people who are into anger, it's the all-purpose emotion. This was often ...
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SEARCHING FOR YOUR CALLING - Quest or Curse?Judging by the extraordinarily positive reader response to Po Bronson's What Should I Do With My Life?, people are aching for a sympathetic outlook on their stories of career dissatisfaction. They tend to be their own harshest critics, often riddled with self-doubt and embarrassment about not getting this 'career thing' right. Maintaining a constructive attitude is challenging. In spite of contrary statistics - such as, the average American changes jobs eight times over the course of his/her ...
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Is It Safe To Change?As I'm working with my clients, I encourage them to feel safe. When I lead them in imagery to find a special, safe place, a few clients cannot imagine a place like that. Some of them don't even feel safe enough to allow the relaxation process to occur because, in their whole life, they've never felt safe. There are many parts of the world where an individual's life is threatened as a result of war, famine and other violent issues. But there are many people in the west who feel insecure because ...
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ProcrastinationYou might wonder how procrastination applies to loving yourself. Well, if you procrastinate, and are anything like me, you'll put something off, and put something off, all the while nagging yourself and feeling worse and worse about yourself. We put ourselves through so much--when really, we should just accept that we need to get to our goal slower, or even just be goal-less for a while. I think that there's often a good reason for procrastination. Our society sees procrastination as a negative ...
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Blue Colored Contact Lens for Dark EyesAs with any item in the bazaar, there are high-quality colored contacts lenses brilliant and poor bits and pieces. Some supplier will just have color contacts as an addition to their current products range and might not set as considerably reflection in to the craze. The end result will be commodities that is certainly first-rate for momentary use but that fails from the long-term. A brand focused to offering non-prescription blue contacts would make sure that their products are of the ...
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Scary Halloween Ideas to Give People an Extra FrightIf you need extra attention in this extremely Halloween driven society, don't look back just shine by grabbing a pair of Halloween contacts. Everyone likes an extremely scary Halloween makeup and outfit. In order for people to match up to the modern world's horror movie Halloween makeup standards you will need some extra help by using makeup, monstrosity and right type of clothing. You want to look good, well here's how:   Different types of theatrical lenses mimic ...
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