DEFLECTING CRITICISM

Is It Safe To Change?As I'm working with my clients, I encourage them to feel safe. When I lead them in imagery to find a special, safe place, a few clients cannot imagine a place like that. Some of them don't even feel safe enough to allow the relaxation process to occur because, in their whole life, they've never felt safe. There are many parts of the world where an individual's life is threatened as a result of war, famine and other violent issues. But there are many people in the west who feel insecure because ...
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ProcrastinationYou might wonder how procrastination applies to loving yourself. Well, if you procrastinate, and are anything like me, you'll put something off, and put something off, all the while nagging yourself and feeling worse and worse about yourself. We put ourselves through so much--when really, we should just accept that we need to get to our goal slower, or even just be goal-less for a while. I think that there's often a good reason for procrastination. Our society sees procrastination as a negative ...
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Blue Colored Contact Lens for Dark EyesAs with any item in the bazaar, there are high-quality colored contacts lenses brilliant and poor bits and pieces. Some supplier will just have color contacts as an addition to their current products range and might not set as considerably reflection in to the craze. The end result will be commodities that is certainly first-rate for momentary use but that fails from the long-term. A brand focused to offering non-prescription blue contacts would make sure that their products are of the ...
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Scary Halloween Ideas to Give People an Extra FrightIf you need extra attention in this extremely Halloween driven society, don't look back just shine by grabbing a pair of Halloween contacts. Everyone likes an extremely scary Halloween makeup and outfit. In order for people to match up to the modern world's horror movie Halloween makeup standards you will need some extra help by using makeup, monstrosity and right type of clothing. You want to look good, well here's how:   Different types of theatrical lenses mimic ...
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Give Yourself Positive, Nurturing MessagesI don't know about you, but I find that negative or hurtful messages zing their way into me faster and easier than positive ones. If, in an hour, seven people gave me real, glowing compliments, and one person criticized me, it is the criticism that I would notice, absorb, and obsess on for weeks. It is the criticism that I would turn over and over, looking at from all angles, like a misshapen stone. It's not hard to find criticism. It's all around us--in the way the media says our bodies should ...
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Follow Your DreamsDreams. What are dreams? Dreams are soul food. Dreams are things that give us hope. And when they come true, they often give us joy and happiness. Dreams are important for us to hold onto, and to follow. I know when I have a dream inside me, and I listen, really listen, and work towards it coming true, I am filled with energy, and hopefulness, and happiness. Often, when people let go of a dream, when they lose it, something dies inside. If dreams are so important to the soul, to happiness, then ...
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Talking to Your Critical VoicesNegative or critical voices interfere with people feeling good about themselves, or feeling good at all. Sometimes those critical voices are so loud that's all you can hear ' and you miss out on your beauty, your growth, on the wonderful things you're doing. This is especially true for anyone who heard constant critical or negative things about themselves growing up, or who's experienced abuse. Then there are the criticisms that women, especially, absorb from advertisements, televison, and ...
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"What Words Will They Chisel Into Your Tombstone?" One day you will inevitably die. A morbid statement, I know, but one that is true. I don't want to upset you so let me say this - hopefully that day will be a long, long way off. However, I have a question for you now. What words will they chisel into your tombstone? Oh I know, most people are cremated these days. What I am really saying here is this - when it is all over for you, what will you be remembered for? What about something like this? 'Here lies Fred Nurk. He was born. He lived. He ...
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Coping with the Loss Caused by Chronic IllnessLiving with a chronic illness has a profound impact on one's life and creates a lot of grief in response to the losses it imposes on our lives. There are wide arrays of potential life interruptions and psychological changes one will go through when dealing with their illness. Our illness is erratic and unpredictable and requires constant readjusting. We are likely to endure multiple losses that may include the loss of control and personal power, which is an important contributor to self-esteem, ...
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Self EsteemSelf Esteem, how does one find it, low self esteem, how does one get it? Esteem: (definition according to Websters Dictionary) to value, appraise, estimate, to have great regard for; value highly; favorable opinion, high regard' To have low self esteem is to not value, or have high regard for yourself. People with low self esteem never feel in charge of their own lives. They often feel like victims. They feel like outsiders, left out, unimportant, etc.. However low self esteem has two faces. ...
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