DEFLECTING CRITICISM

Criticism

Sat, 12 May 2012 00:49:43 -0500

PERMISSION TO REPUBLISH: This article may be republished innewsletters and on web sites provided attribution is provided tothe author, and it appears with the included copyright, resourcebox and live web site link. Email notice of intent to publish isappreciated but not required. Mail to: eagibbsureach.comI am always bothered whenever I see someone criticizing anotherperson in a loud, angry, and boisterous manner. It bothers mebecause, although it may have been meant to be constructive, itis, in reality, destructive for both parties. And I know thatthe experience does not have to be destructive.What the criticizing person fails to realize is that he or sheis showing his ignorance. He is actually demonstrating hisunhappiness with himself. Consequently, he concentrates on what is wrong with everythinginstead of what is right. He does not see the sky; he sees therainy clouds. He does not see the true potential of his wife,his children, or his employees; he only sees the...

For The Business Man in You

Fri, 11 May 2012 00:59:07 -0500

Have you always dream of owning your own Business and working inthe comfort of your own home ?As human we all want to succeed. We all want the best from life.We all want to be wealthy, to have a great house, to travelaround the globe. A great wife and beautiful and healthy kids.To have all of this you don't need to be a genius, have luck orto rob a bank. All you need is that you use the power of faith wich meansconfidence. Confidence in yourself.You also need knowledge. Like the adage: "Knowledge is Power".But you must ACT. Knowledge without action is useless. It's likehaving a recipe of a cake, without actually making the cake. So to succeed you need to know what you want and after that acton it.HOW TO SUCCEED The first ultimate start to succeed with your home business isto write your goals and have a business plan. Don't wait for everything to be exactly right to start...THEREWILL NEVER BE A "PERFECT" TIME! Start now, with whatever youhave. The things you need will...

Job Hunting Tips

Thu, 10 May 2012 06:22:53 -0500

Looking for work is generally a miserable undertaking. Nomatter how much education and experience you have, you are in apowerless and vulnerable position.You spend days preparing for an interview, trying to build upyour self-confidence, create a relaxed, competent demeanor todisguise the turmoil and anxiety inside, and practice answers toquestions you hope the interviewer will ask.Is there any way to feel really calm as you approach thereceptionist, uncomfortably aware that there are other peoplewaiting, perhaps applicants for the same position? Sit down,take a deep breath, and listen to your inner voice.Welcome the anxiety that is coursing through your veins. It is afree, non-addictive stimulant that is going to keep you on yourtoes and keep you hyper-alert throughout the interview. Remindyourself that without that anxiety, you would present yourselfas lifeless and flat.Remember the lists you have made: of your personal qualities,your strengths, the weaknesses you ha...

If You Want Other People to Like You, Like Yourself First!

Sun, 08 Apr 2012 00:01:32 -0500

If You Want Others to Like You, Like Yourself First!Many of us mistakenly believe that it's wrong or conceited, tothink we have any good qualities. We may spend a lot of timeberating ourselves for our negative qualities, thinking thatself criticism is the key to improving our performance. However,a constant focus on our supposed shortcomings can hinder ourefforts to make friends with other people. How can we have the confidence to make new friends if we thinkwe don't have much to offer? How can we believe that otherscould like us if we believe our inner being is flawed? Or if wethink we are too boring to interest anyone else? We may wonder what anyone else would see in us if we don't seeany good in ourselves. In order for others to be attracted tous, they must be able to easily see our best qualities. If wefocus on our good qualities we will have much more confidencethat we have something of value to offer in a relationship. If you wish to be socially successful, it's i...

Personal Power

Thu, 29 Mar 2012 00:13:31 -0500

The following article is offered for free use in your ezine,print publication or on your web site, so long as the authorresource box at the end is included, with hyperlinks.Notification of publication would be appreciated.For other articles which you are free to use, seehttp:www.innerbonding.comTitle: Personal Power Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail:mailto:margaretinnerbonding.com Copyright: by MargaretPaul URL: http:www.innerbonding.com Word Count: Category:self ImprovementPersonal Power By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.All of us would love to have personal power ' the power tomanifest our dreams, the power to remain calm and loving in theface of fear, the power to stay centered in ourselves in theface of attack. Our society often confuses personal power - 'power within' -with 'power over,' which is about controlling others. There is avast difference between personal power and control.Personal power comes from an inner sense of security, fromknowing who you...

Dating

Sun, 25 Mar 2012 09:46:55 -0500

I don't know about you, but when someone says to me, 'I'm goingto be brutally frank with you,' I usually say, 'No, you're not,'and walk away. It's a common misconception that telling someone your version of'the truth' is helpful to them, and evidence of virtue in you. Actually it often amounts to a projection or rationalizationthat harms, serving your purpose and not the other's.There are professions where delivering bad news is what they do.Physicians, psychologists, and managers routinely must tellpeople they have stage four cancer, or are mentally ill, or aregoing to be fired. It's their job. Teachers and parents are also required to instruct childrenabout behavior, manners, appearance and character. However, this does not carry over to the private lives andrelationships of adults.Dating involves the risk of rejection. Typically it involvesambivalence. We start out testing at every turn who the personis, what it's like to be with them, and how good the fit is. Itpr...